This is Episode 8 – The Fair Play Game from Season 2 of the Juna Women Podcast. Season 2 is about planning your family.
Domestic Responsibility – the tasks performed inside a household in order to ensure that the basic needs of its members are met — things like cooking, cleaning, laundry, and taking care of children or elderly parents.
In a 2-parent household where both parents work full time jobs, the division of domestic labor can literally make or break your relationship.
It turns out regardless of whether we work outside the home. We call this the mental load that women carry. We call it invisible work. That was the term– “invisible work”– that resonated most with me in my journey, and it was because there was a modicum of a solution in there. – Eve Rodsky, Author “Fair Play”
Since chores can literally make or break your marriage, it makes sense that for us to spend some time treating our home life with care and importance.
To help with this topic, I enlisted my husband Eric for a candid conversation on how we divvy things up, and Author Eve Rodsky, who has crafted a real world solution for dividing the 100 or so invisible tasks that must get done every day.
By the end of this episode you should have a clear picture of the importance of domestic responsibility and be able to set the “every day” of your life up for success.
One note: If you’re coming to this episode before having kids, that’s even better. Put the system in place early and you’ll be way ahead of the game.
What is the Fair Play Game?
Eve Rodsky surveyed more than 500 couples across the US to figure out WHAT the invisible work in a family actually is and HOW to get it done effectively–in a way that makes relationships even stronger.
Fair Play identifies the 100 main tasks in any marriage, and then divides those tasks fairly (not necessarily equally!) so that both parties contribute their share. If we don’t learn to rebalance our home life and reclaim our “unicorn time” (aka, our space to develop the skills and passions that keep us vibrant), then we risk losing our right to be interesting, not just to our partner, but to ourselves.
Part how-to guide for couples, part modern marriage manifesto, Fair Play offers an innovative system with a completely original lexicon to discuss how relationships actually work … and how we can make them work better.
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Author, Fair Play
Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time by coming up with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.
In her book Fair Play, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose.
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